• Ajay Manaktala

South Asian Wedding Day Surprises Nobody Warns You About

Indian and South Asian weddings are quite the events.

Imagine a wedding reception:

  • spanning 2 or 3 days,

  • with 300 people,

  • food past the horizon and years of planning and travel all leading up to this special day.

Most desi weddings have guests that travel the world to attend and also have budgets of a small business.

As a result, it’s important to understand not only the things everybody tells you but also stuff less common that many don’t.

We asked over 2,000 Indian and Pakistani brides what is something they didn’t realize would happen during the wedding, and they did not disappoint.

Ten Indian Wedding Shaadi Surprises on the Big Day

1. You Will Get Tired of Smiling

If you’re a bride or groom to be, nobody explains that the actual wedding day is like being Oprah or Beyonce for a day.  Those celebrities get used to ignoring crowds and cameras, but for most of us it’s a new feeling.

As a result your body will go into “Just smile and don’t act weird” mode.

Eventually however, the hyper awareness you’re so not used to having will catch up with your face muscles, and you will actually start clenching your jaw, rubbing your eyes, and just a be a little uncomfortable.

Indian wedding face hurts from smiling
Left or Right?

It’s nothing major, but take sips of water, close your eyes for 5-10 seconds at a time and just recognize it happens to everybody.

While you might think all eyes are on you, they are also on their cell phones, wrapped up in catch up conversations and sometimes (yes it’s normal), guests do fall asleep.  Don’t stress, everybody knows you’re overwhelmed with attention and just settle into the poise that works for you.

2. The Lehenga is 50 pounds and Heavy.

I did not realize how heavy a lehenga is.  Wow.

The extra weight means:

  • you will have a hard time moving,

  • you will sweat a bunch,

  • you might want to change after your ceremony and you will burn a lot of energy.

indian wedding stress heavy lehenga
The stress is real!

If you think you’re gonna jump right onto the dance floor or bar with that extra 60 pounds of garments, jewelry, hair extension and whatever else...ummm, think again.

Of the 100 responses we got for this article, the weight of the lehenga was one of the most popular “Nobody warned me about that” moments.

3. Your Makeup Will Take Too Long

I have a personal gripe with Make Up Artists.  They are AMAZING at making South Asian wedding brides look GORGEOUS.  But once that’s done, can you not waste her time with 15 minutes of photos for your Instagram reel?

indian wedding makeup takes too long