• Ajay Manaktala

Gujarati Wedding Guide | USA Indian Weddings (2020)

Updated: May 28, 2020

To Garba or Not to Garba?

In this article I'm going to explain to the American born Patel/Shah/Mehta how to have an awesome Gujarati wedding, whether in the Bay area, New Jersey, Michigan, London, Hong Kong, Surat , Bangkok or wherever you find Gujarati's.

Gujarati MC for Indian weddings in America.
PRO TIP: Try finding an MC who speaks a lil bit Gujarati yeah?

I've planned over 300 Gujarati weddings in America/Hawaii/Mexico/Thailand and I'm also married to a Gujarati bride myself :) You can take this as an informal Gujarati wedding checklist on top of the most things you need to do for a typical Indian wedding.

I'll also explain some Gujarati customs we see which are still done in weddings in the USA or UK or Canada.

We'll discuss how to deal with your Gujarati family (or your soon to be Gujarati groom's family) and have a stress free weekend, as often times the only people who don't enjoy themselves at a desi wedding are the couple!

If you're a first time guest of a Gujarati wedding, this article will also help.

Majority of Indian Weddings in America are Gujarati

Gujarati's are all over the place, and so are their weddings! Of all the Indian weddings we do in America or Canada, at least 60% of the Indian ones have a Patel or a Shah in the mix.

That being said, with regards to South Asian functions here are tips you need to know when planning a Gujarati wedding.

How is a Gujarati Wedding Different than a normal Indian Wedding?

It's not that they're different, it's just that Gujarati weddings are a TYPE of Indian wedding in which the community has its roots in the state of Gujarat, which is in the North west part of India.

When the average American or European thinks of Indian weddings, many of them will think of Chicken Tikka Masala, garlic naan, mehndi (henna hand paint), colorful fashion and free-flowing alcohol. Well...

  • If you're attending a wedding in India, in Gujarat itself, you can probably nix the alcohol and meat.

  • If in America, there is a 40% chance you can nix the meat and a 30% chance you can nix the alcohol.

  • Many Guju (short form for Gujarati) weddings in either country will likely have a Garba, which I'll explain below.

  • Guju's are very big on fashion, fabrics and jewelry so expect a bit more colorful affair than just shirt and ties!

  • On the whole, they'll likely be a bit more conservative than a Punjabi wedding but probably a bigger party than a South Indian wedding.

Get ready to say Kem Cho 100 times :) Gujarati wedding we did in Feb 2019 in Bangkok and California. Bridal outfit by IG: Jinashili

What are the Priorities in a Gujarati Wedding?

  1. Tradition and Customs (e.g. having a small ceremony to purify the bride and groom, aka the haldi, pithi or Vidhi)

  2. Food

  3. Fashion

  4. Music

  5. Decoration

  6. Alcohol (many major US weddings now have but not a massive priority)

  7. Sangeet (many will opt instead for Garba)

Ways to Make Your Gujarati Wedding Memorable

We DJ Gujarati weddings pretty much weekly, and below is the best of the best advice on how to make sure that you're stands out. If you're completely clueless about what to do, read the whole thing. If you're on the fence about how to make your wedding hip but also keep the Guju aunties and uncles content, I suggest you skim and read closely!

As always we have a huge Gujarati team on staff so feel free to comment your specific questions!

1. When in Doubt...Garba.

For the Newbies, Wait...What is a Garba?

Garba is a Gujarati folk dance form coordinated by people clapping generally in a circle.

It is also used interchangeably with dandia (the drum sticks used to dance with your partner) or raas to describe the event. Regardless, don't you stress about the semantics.

In a nutshell it's a coordinated dance like the YMCA or the electric slide, except you have to do it in a circle, sometimes with sticks, and join in pairs (e.g. if you leave, someone is left out).

A garba can be a small portion of the night, for 30 minutes, or the entire theme of a night, sort of like a rodeo or breaking into a salsa portion.

Don't worry about it too much, you can basically join in and learn as you go. 5 Year old kids do it, you can do it too.

Ok, now back to why you should probably do it.

While weddings continue to turn into crazy sound and visual spectacles, most couples end up realizing tradition is important for a reason.

You don't need to have a Garba, but if you're on the fence about it or having pressure from family to do it...then please do it!

In fact for most of our clients in America and New York we've noticed that the younger people who are shy about doing it end up having a ball when their friends get so excited to participate.

Garba at Mehendi Indian Wedding
Bro did we just do Garba at a Mehendi? WTF?

Just Do It!

PRO TIP: You don't even need a formal Garba. At my brother's mehendi, after the drinks were flowing people started doing Garba on the informal dance floor and it rocked the party!

Garba wedding America guide.
Oh you're gonna have to Garba for sure bro.

NRI PRO TIP: There is a common theme amongst younger people (I was guilty too) to shy away from Indian music. Why are you having an Indian wedding? Don't try to be "Cool." Your friends want to experience Bollywood music, so give them that experience too!

Make sure your Indian DJ in America knows Gujarati songs and customs!

ALSO See: 9 Gujarati Wedding songs for Garba for your US Indian Wedding.

Ideally they will know the latest Drake but also dandia jams!

Why Music is Important for Gujaratis

The Gujarati is one of the largest immigrant populations in the world. Millions of them have settled in Africa, the UK, the US, Canada and South East Asia. As a result, they take their culture very seriously and like to see it in doses at almost every function.

These days Gujarati folks may drink, may be non vegeterian, and many have probably never been to Ahmedabad or Baroda, but you step into house and Gujarati vibes are all over the place. I know many families in New Jersey who don't speak Hindi but are fluent in Gujarati.

Long story short, most weddings are 90% Bollywood and Hip-hop but throw in even 5% of Gujarati or Garba music and watch the elder folks go nuts!

2. Chicken Versus Vegetarian

PRO TIP: Have separate tables and counters. And give the veggies some justice.

Eating meat is a very sensitive issue amongst the Gujarati crowd, and simply having a few veggie items at the buffet or vice-versa wont cut it.

You need to keep the food at a separate counter, because there will be some 7 year old kid who mixes the spoons between the Chicken Tikka Masala and the rice.

In fact for Jain people (those who don't eat root veggies like potato or carrots) you might even need three counters.

Gujarati wedding food Los Angeles.
Potato and cilantro and spices. Yum.

The last thing you want is Praful bai accidentally chomping on a juicy piece of shrimp.

We've seen it ruin the mood of entire weddings.

Make sure you have separate buffet counters if you are mixing the food.

AND MAKE SURE YOUR VEG SPREAD IS AS VARIED AS YOUR NON VEG SPREAD! Get middle eastern, mexican, whatever and let it shine!

This might as well be Akon for Gujus aka the Dandia Queen.

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3. Make sure your aunties/uncles/grandparents communicate traditions before hand.

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